social
- don’t play video/audio out loud in public
- use people’s names when you talk to them, even online
- state the request in the first message if asking for a favor; skip the fluff
- there is always someone else who can provide the service you do so if your plate is full, don’t feel bad for saying no to someone’s request
- when planning a hang, pick a time that works for YOU and then broadcast it. trying to accommodate everyone is just too complex and discouraging.
- never buy a class package of anything, you will not use them
books
- classics must be on bright paper with large enough margins to write in
- cannot have the shitty paper that mechanical pencil lead gets caught in
clothes
- will never fit right: built-in bras, stitching to indicate where the bust is, button-up dresses
- won’t look nice on me: drop shoulder, empire waist
internet/tech
- ~~leave/mark messages unread if you can’t respond just yet~~
2026: i’ve gotten over this.
- unsubscribe to useless marketing newsletters right away
- generally: do the small inconvenient thing to save on mental friction and phantom obligation in the long run
- LIKE PEOPLE’S POSTS/REPLIES before replying to them. it’s polite… simple etiquette…
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